By Stacy Zemon – Publisher & Chief Scribe
The richest and most fertile soil for growth is the encounter between what we know how to do and what we don’t know how to do. If we look at this statement through the lens of learning itself we will see that what he is really describing is the intersection between conscious competency (knowing what we know) and conscious incompetency (knowing what we don’t know).
Herein Lies the Conflict
The bulk of learning occurs between these two stages and it’s also the most uncomfortable and the most unsettling. As these two stages collide there is a natural tendency to attempt to gain control and thereby avoid the awkwardness of not knowing.
When we are faced with our incompetence it can be embarrassing—no one likes to look like a fool.
Avoid this Temptation
The temptation to retreat from the discomfort or somehow delay the clumsy and awkward stage of learning in order to gain control will always be there. However, to lessen the discomfort and seek control will only delay or sabotage learning and growth itself.
The challenge then is to recognize the process of learning for what it is and embrace it! Embrace the sweaty armpits and the rapid heart rate. You will get through it.
When you move from resistance to acceptance you are able to bridle a sizable momentum that will carry you forward. The by-product is growth. The reward is increased self-confidence!
To what extent are you resisting change for the sake of staying in your comfort zone?